It's not uncommon for people to ask me when I am going to finally settle down. When will I get a girl and get married. Will I ever want to settle down? Most often, I'd dance around the question. It never ceases me to wonder, however, why people love to ask such question. The people who asked these questions are married people. Don't they know realize that meeting the right person is the most difficult thing EVER? They must have.. since they have went through the ordeal. Why, then the question?
Firstly, there has to be the meet. I have been to a few, well, dates, set up by friends. Mostly it is a group of 4 outing to make things easier. Usually it just end there. They would say, why not and I would not know how to answer. How do you answer a question like "Is she suitable? Why not?" Again, it never ceases to amaze me that married or attached couple would ask such a question. Had they never met someone un-suitable? I am sure they have had their shares of unsuitable beau, so it should not come as a surprise to them, right?
Today, I ponder hard on their question. Actually, the very simple answer to the "why not" questions is that there is simply no chemistry between me and the potential girl. Chemistry is very important to me. Without it, there's no motivation for actions. We know that a relationship is based very much on actions, not just empty talks. Without the chemistry, where then is the action? Without action, where then is the relationship going to blossom?
I guess it is easier for the women. This is just my opinion, of course, and I am sure that my dear readers (who happened to be females) may not agree. Women, don't have to do much. They just stay pretty, petite and nice and men line up at their doorstep. Women need not place so much emphasis on the chemistry. As long as this guy is nice, no odd chin or weird hair sticking out of the nose, he's a potential - and can be considered. If he did all these works, actions and activities to finally impress and win her heart, boom.. they just get married. That is the only explanation I can come up with as to why fat and clumsy men or ugly guys get the girl. Because they do a lot of things to win their heart. And what motivates them to do things? Chemistry!
Now I have the answer to all these questions and it is chemistry. I hope they are satisfied :)
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